Bryan Goodwin: The connection between you and your wife have cooled down. Y'all are in the depth of
the roommate syndrome, and you're wanting to know how do you build a connection with your wife again.
Can you build a connection? Can you build a better connection with your wife? Yes. You can. We're gonna be talking about that this week on episode 227
of the relaxed male.
This is the relaxed
male. A show that comes to you each week helping men to remove the nice guy from their life so they can actually live their life on their terms.
Join the host of certified coach, Brian Goodwin, as he helps
men step out of their heads and become free from the thoughts that bind them. Amen. Hello, and welcome to the relax mail. I'm your host, Brian. I am a certified men's coach who, assists men who are just neck deep in the suffering in their life, whether it is the relationship with their wife and their or they even have an impending
divorce coming up.
We go through a lot, men, and I we get that. And we know that our day to day struggles can just be overwhelming and just hold us back and keep us where we just wanna just play small
and not reach for the the great,
wonderful, fulfilling, satisfying
relationships that we truly, truly desire.
That's where I come in. That's where this podcast comes in. We sit down, we talk about
what it takes to
get past the
just getting by,
just
just being there to
say hi and passing on in the on the way to the bathroom.
We're here to
show you how your relationship can actually become better, become greater because
roommate syndrome is just
an indicator that it's time
for a change up. And that's what we're doing today. We're showing you how to do a change up, how to change, how to build a connection. We're starting from scratch, man. You've just you're you've been sitting there. You've realized that
for months and maybe even years now that things just aren't what they need to be. Maybe sex isn't
as often as you would think that it's supposed to be.
Maybe you haven't had,
had an intimate time with your with wife in in months.
Heck, maybe even you're coming up on year or even longer.
How do you get a
fiery relationship
going again? Or one that is full of passion and
and love and respect.
That's the key. That's the problem.
A lot of people don't. They it sounds so daunting, so horrible
that and horribly
scary
to actually take the time to go, dude,
I don't know how to get my wife back.
My beautiful bride that I used to have is sitting in the
spot right next to me in bed, but yet
there's a there's a wall
that is
blocking us from
being able to connect. How do I connect with my wife again?
And this is where we've kinda have to start because where what is what is relationship,
or roommate syndrome? What does that where does that even come from?
And that's a that's a tough one because a lot of times,
it sneaks up on us. It's not just all of a sudden one day, it's like, slam.
We've got roommate syndrome on us. No. It's
a very
slow
progression
of us just
starting to play it safe.
We don't wanna get our hurt feelings hurt. We don't wanna hurt the other person. We've had too many arguments
with each other before,
and so we kinda stop
being curious with each other.
We start having these little
conflict cycles that kick in, and
we, wanna avoid talking about finances because it just ends in in in arguments and hurt feelings and slam doors and all this other stuff.
The kids, and we're
start trying to mix kids together in into the life. And ever and before you know it,
it's you sitting in the living room, playing video games,
going to the computer or on your phone watching porn.
She's in the air room
watching her shows on her phone, talking with friends or talking or just scrolling mindlessly through
through different social media channels.
And you just, like I've kinda said at the at the intro, it's just y'all kinda
y'all say hi to each other. It's not that y'all don't talk. There's no connection at all. It's just the connection is digressed
down to the level of roommate
where y'all sit down, you do the the bills, y'all pay the bills, and you carry on.
While in
a relationship, there's more. There's
the longing, the love, the yearning, the the
the passion
that we crave as men. We I want to
walk by and have my wife come up, you know, have my wife grab my ass sometimes. You know?
I want that flirty
woman, that
that tiger in the bedroom
again.
How do we do that? Well, you
again, we have to look at why it start.
We let life we lived life so in unintentionally
for so many years
that
we weren't even aware
that our
marriage had
cooled off. We started to realize that our life just, we get we get carried away with the river of life, and that's easy to do, man. I know I've I've been there. I've talked about the times that I woke up one day and realized my kids were out of the house, and I never got to do the things that I really wanted to do with them. I never I didn't get to take them to been down the Guadalupe River until they were
both both my kids were out of the house.
Why?
Because I was not being intentional with how I lived my life.
We have
connections in our lives. Our wife
is one of the biggest anchor points that we have. And those connections, the responsibilities,
and the kids, and everything else that come into play,
we have to we try to do a very
delicate balancing act of
making sure that we have our wife
is included, but then, you know, like I said, we have kids. We gotta how do you fit the kids into our lives? And then on top of that, we've got work. And if the wife if your wife works, she's out out and bound. She's doing stuff. She's got all her projects and everything else. You've got your friends who are coming around and going, and they're wanting the time and and all this. And
when do you have time for yourself?
When do you have time for you and your wife
to to just hold with each other and to just connect,
reconnect?
These are the questions that that you have to start with, And the key to it all
is being intentional. So we have to start
with the end in mind.
What does it look like if you were able to have tomorrow?
You snapped your fingers, and you woke up, and you had the ideal marriage.
Besides for the fact that the moment you woke up, your wife's clothes just fell off of her. She fell to her knees and
started going at you.
What else?
What else is about in this relationship
do you
want in a in in your marriage?
Do you want the late nights where y'all lose each other's,
lose sense of time as y'all are talking about and dreaming about whatever it is y'all are wanting to do with your lives? Even if you're 40, 50 years old, you still have time. There's another 50 years ahead of you.
Don't think because you hit mid middle age that now you're on the downhill slide.
No. You've hit middle age. Now you're
you're in you're setting in foot in in high gear, man. It's time to start having some fun. Start living your life intentionally.
How do you want your marriage? Yeah. You may not be having, you know, sex every 2 hours like you did when you were first married,
but you're still going you still have
the ability to have
passionate
lovemaking sessions.
But how do you do that?
You have to start looking at what what a
healthy,
loving, passionate marriage
is like.
Are you going to be able to have all those instances?
No. No. Not really.
But you're going to be a lot closer
if you start living and start pointing and start directing your relationship
with that
objective in mind.
We wander through life
without even handling the rudder.
It we we all of a sudden, we wonder,
how did I wind up here? Why am I nowhere near the life that I thought I wanted to have? I wanted to be a photographer
when I was growing up. I wanted to go out and be known for for my photography.
It was just 2 years ago that I finally got my got a camera again.
I hadn't had a camera
in almost 30 years.
And that is again because
of living life
without intention.
So we have to plan. We have to look. We have to decide.
Dream
about what it is. Envision
what it is you would love to have
as the ideal marriage.
Then start looking
and understand
why
things changed.
Look back, understand
how did what part of the circumstance,
Why did the marriage
die off like it did? And look at what was your
part
in that scenario.
Look at why
the marriage
died off. How did you react when something
unpleasant happened?
Did you blow up? Did you stomp your feet, slam doors, cuss, scream, holler, pout?
Or did you show up
present
with what was happening
and try to help find a solution?
Not that you were a bull in the china shop, but you just you honestly try to find a solution.
Would your wife agree
to that assessment?
You need to look at the whys. Understand
what got you into this situation. It's gonna take
some long, hard conversations with the wife,
asking, so how did we calm down? What what what
why do we not have
deep discussions anymore? And a lot of times, she's gonna be, I don't know, because she's not being intentional with her life. And that's okay.
You don't have to drag her along.
She will follow.
You just have to start with curiosity, and we're gonna dive into the curiosity part here a little bit more. But looking at how you wanna live your life, how you want to
how you wanna have your marriage,
that's where we start making our plans. Start laying out those plans.
What if what is it that every Saturday, 8 o'clock at night, you're going to go
and
talk with your wife for maybe 30 minutes.
Set a silent alarm on your watch or something. Something that just lets you know, you know, after 30 minutes, if you're still kinda having a con not really have a conversation, alright. Well, at least you tried having some spent some time with your wife,
said more than 3 words to each other.
Maybe it's every evening at 6 o'clock. You and the wife grab the dogs and y'all go out and walk for a mile, 2 miles, 4 miles, however many miles you like to walk.
Maybe it is
you
stepping up
and surprising your wife with little treats, maybe every Tuesday Thursday,
without telling her, without asking or without announcing that you're doing it. But you just go in and you just wash the dishes, get them put taken care of, start get everything started,
and don't add don't seek
any recognition.
She'll come in.
I guarantee it. She's
you don't have to go, oh, I went ahead and washed dishes for you because
it's not that you're
trying to degrade her or trying to shame her or anything like that.
But a lot of times, women,
when we just jump into there and we start doing those without
without letting and and trying to get a, you know, recognition from her,
our those actions are gonna, 1, backfire
because she's gonna see it as probably a type of manipulation.
But also,
there's a good chance she's going to feel bad because she knows she let the ball fall.
She she did she dropped the ball
and
she might have she she knew she was needing to do dishes and she just didn't. They piled up, and then all of a sudden you decided to take care of it.
It would may cause her to feel guilty. But if you just
It doesn't mean anything to me. I just did the dishes. They were there. They were in the sink. I had to do them. I did them. So okay. We're good.
Maybe every Friday, you're gonna buy flowers for. Maybe you're just you've decided
Friday nights
are
date night.
Saturday night, date night. Boom. We're gonna we have the day. We do our stuff. We get get home.
You dress
up better than what you are, and you take your wife
out for a meal,
for a walk in the park,
you start dating your wife again. If you wanna have a good connection, that's probably one of the better things to do. Start having
date night again. Take a piece of paper and list out all the accomplishments
you wanna have in your marriage.
Those are your plans.
How do you do that? Know that you're gonna drop the ball. But whenever you do, make it make a a choice on something
like date night, Saturday night.
Boom. Alright. Good.
Stick to it with
religious
fervor that hardly anything is gonna get between you and your wife's date night. And date night doesn't have to be super extravagant.
Date night, like I said, maybe that you just go and y'all go to the park with some
baloney sandwiches, and I can't even stand baloney, but I would make baloney sandwich, sit down, and just have a meal with her
outside
in the fresh air
and just allow for you and her to reconnect.
The phones stay in the car,
and it's just
you offer her arm offer you her you offer her your arm. There's too many yous, hers, and thems, and theys.
And
and y'all just go out and you would have a good time of just enjoying each other's company. There's a, yeah, there's a carnival in town. Alright. Yeah. You might spend some extra money and go to the carnival, see if you can win a big old big old teddy bear or something.
Be dating again.
Treat your wife as your girlfriend.
For whatever reason, when we start
stop dating,
we get married. It's like, oh, okay. Well, I don't have to work any as hard anymore. I don't have to date my wife anymore. No. You need to still be dating your girl, man. That's the one of the big things we drop every single time. And it's sad that we do this, but it's something that we can fix
very easily.
We just, again, have to be intentional
with it.
Now, another thing you wanna make sure you do is work on yourself,
not your wife.
Don't come in with a self help book going, hey, babe. You might wanna read this.
You know, I made that mistake.
Proper care and feeding your husband.
Good book.
I
what I saw myself in that book in so many instances,
but I made the mistake of giving it to my wife going, hey.
It's
the wife has to want to change herself.
So, you have to give her the incentive as to why she wants to change.
The way you do that is you work on yourself. You lead.
You don't direct. You don't guide. You don't lecture. You don't
demand.
You eat better.
You
start exercising.
You
make constant changes
to your life.
You make very consistent, very very defined
changes.
You're if you're
drink too much,
maybe you stop drinking. Yeah. I hear you the voice in your head. I it's screaming that loud. Oh, you can't stop. Yeah. Maybe that's something you need to do. Improve yourself. When she sees that you have made changes
and that your life is getting better, you're becoming
happier,
more fulfilled,
she's going to go, woah. Woah. Woah. Woah. Woah. Woah.
Am I going to lose him because he's gotten better? She's gonna even try to convince you to not work so hard
because of the uneasy feeling she has. She wants you to regulate her emotions.
And you she can't do that. You can't make her happy.
That's one of the most freeing things me and my wife actually did is I abdicated.
I I resolved or absolved her from my
her responsibility
of making me happy. That's the proper term. I add I resolved
I
released her
from her responsibility.
She no longer had to may be responsible
or feel like she had to be responsible
for my
ultimate happiness
because that will cause more suffering and more pain in another person's life
than if they think they have to do everything they can to make them make the other person happy.
That's really hard to do considering 1, you don't have control over the other person's emotions,
but 2, you're struggling to make yourself happy. So how are you supposed to make the other person happy?
If we want our wife to open up and to have a better connection with us,
we have to work on ourselves.
We have to take the time
to better
who we are.
Now,
one of the big things if you wanna have a better connection, we wanna talk. Right?
That's how we actually connect with each other is not just beside sitting beside her or, you know,
connecting
with each other, you know, physically,
but we also have to talk.
And
a lot of the times, us guys, we have been told
incorrectly
by a lot of feminists
and a lot of men who think that they're feminists,
and
they get to we get told that we're supposed to
open up more. We're supposed to be more emotionally
available.
No. I'm here to let you in on that fact. That is a bald faced
misrepresentation
of what it is women actually want.
Women
want you to open up about your day.
And,
yes, pay attention.
Listen, next time your your wife and a friend of hers are talking
on the phone, all you have to do is hear your wife's side of the conversation.
Just pay attention to what they're talking about.
You will know exactly what they're doing because they're going into minute,
just
insignificant
little
details
of our of their what their day was.
They're talking about having 37.5
Cheerios in their left in the box because junior ate everything else.
Women are very detail oriented.
So when they speak and they talk and they share their life with their other women,
it is a lot of detail.
So what a what do women want
when they want us to open up?
They want us to open up about our days.
You know? How many emails did you search,
go through? What did it take for you to find, you know, what was the big problem that you had in your life? And we're gonna go, it's
not really important. It's not there's nothing about that that
that
is is reigns you know, that's gonna change the world if I share it with her, but it will change her world
because she feels included
in your life.
You used to share all those little details when you were dating her. You had
those times when you would talk about and gossip and and have a good time
sharing and talking incessantly like a bunch of chattering birds with each other. And you have to be able to speak
without fearing that you're going to step on her toes.
If she has an emotional
response to something you said,
okay.
She had an emotional response. Don't try to fix it. And that's part of it. When you're having a conversation with your wife and she's telling you your her day, she's just telling you her day. She's just reporting to you what her day was about.
It's not that you're supposed to go in there and fix it. She wants to fix it. She has the ability to fix it, man. She wants to fix it. She just wants to know that you are emotionally stable enough that you can handle
her turmoil also.
You can handle her turmoil. You can handle how she
her her ups and downs. She may even get angry while she's talking and reenacting the the the day.
Can you
handle
the fact that her thought, her emotions that she's displaying
have no effect on you? They do not affect you. They do not reflect on you. Her emotions are her emotions. Your emotions are your emotions.
You cannot be affected by her emotion.
Now she can act out on her emotion,
and that might affect you.
You piss her off enough. She may grab a knife and come after you. Alright? That's her
emotional response.
Alright? That's her response to what the emotion is she's feeling.
But her actual emotion of anger, frustration,
sadness, whatever,
doesn't affect you.
You have a thought about her being upset and angry.
Last night,
I got home. Alright. Not at best of moods. She was a little grumbley for some reason. And I asked her, I was like, so what's going on? And she's like, nothing.
And there's an anxious attachment style that I'd love to jump into,
and
I wanna make her being unhappy mean something about me. It has nothing to do with me. I wasn't around at the house.
She
had something happen.
She was she had a the thought sequence of that caused her to present herself in a grumpy manner.
Had nothing to do with me. It took
me being very conscious about the fact
that it does not center around me. I told her, alright. Well, okay. You wanna talk about it, let me know. I'll I'll be here to listen.
Nothing was said about it after that.
I still thought about it. I still was sweating that detail for some reason
because I have to I want to that that
my wife's
emotion to be within my
benchmark
zone. I want it to be in this little defined zone. And if it she stays there, I know life is okay.
If it gets too high, too low, something's going on and I, you know, that's gonna start wigging me out.
That's just the nice guy in me. But if you can
take the time
and be alright with her, just being present with her
emotions,
being present with her as she talks about what her day is, talks about what's going through her mind.
You make your connection
that much stronger.
Now another way that you could actually build your
connection with your wife up even more
is if you work on your 4 pillars of a relaxed male.
That is working on the mind, reading books, listen to podcasts,
talking to to other people, you know, like, if you are a part of a church, talking to a minister, finding out ways that you can
increase your
your your connectivity
with
those people around you, but also with your wife.
Learning,
growing,
developing yourself, developing your mind,
getting mentally stronger, always learning. Never stop learning.
Because the moment you stop learning is the moment you start dying.
Alright?
A man's body is another pillar. Eat right. Exercise. That's what that's all about. And it doesn't mean you have to go vegan either, man.
God, no. I hate anybody's
thinking they have to go vegan on
because of because of the man's body.
No.
Eat
proper
amounts of food.
Stay away from sugar.
Abstain from cigarettes. Abs you know,
have a beer from time to time, have a glass of wine from time to time, but don't go off and drink the whole bottle in one setting.
You're not doing yourself any good. You're adding a whole bunch of extra calories, so you're getting yourself fat.
You're increasing your chances of of having diabetes and and other things, and you can't protect your wife.
A man has to be able to protect his family,
and he needs to show and honor his wife by saying, I am willing
to be here with you for the very long haul. I'm gonna be there to protect you. I'm gonna be by your side. I'm gonna be
your partner in crime for the rest of your rest of our lives.
To be able to do that, you have to take care of your body. You cannot defend your
wife properly
if you have one foot that you've had one foot
because you weren't taking care of yourself.
If you walk up, I,
I fly to 5 stairs
and up to the top of your
you're in trouble, man. Your wife is in trouble
because if you get into a hand to hand combat and you're breathing heavy as it is, just going up a flight of stairs, what if you're going to get somebody who is a little bit bet in better shape than you? They're gonna kick your ass.
So you have to get
into shape.
Start
just walking does so much for you. It expounds it ex it gets forces the blood vessels in the fingertips and the and your toes
to expand so that you get more blood flow going.
Exercise is great, and it's incredible for you and for your health and for the family and for you. If you wanna have better sex, getting yourself into shape so that you actually have proper blood flow to mister happy
is an important factor.
Alright?
Stop watching the porn because, man, you're just killing you're killing yourself
just by flogging the dolphin too damn much. Now not that that kills you, but you're you're
killing the creativity,
the the drive to get out amongst the world and to exercise and to eat right
is what I'm meaning.
You need the man's body pillar. The man's soul, what is your purpose? What what is making your soul
shine?
You have to have a reason
to get out of bed in the morning.
You have to have a reason to just go out and try and try and try again.
This is reason why relaxed males out there. This is my calling. This is my purpose.
I have been doing this thing for 7 year 7 7 is it 7 years?
2017,
18, 19. Yeah. Holy crow. Yeah. 7 years.
And it's the it wasn't this. It wasn't a coaching site to begin with, but it has been a passion project that has morphed and morphed and morphed again. And that is what's makes it so fun is that I have not run out of topics yet. Have our has the focuses changed
each year? Yeah. We've gone from working on man's mind to working on man's purpose and working out kinda in man's community.
And we're gonna be staying in man's community for a while because this is really what makes me shine. This is what
makes me happy, gets my juices flowing, man.
Just the work the fact that we are talking about
purpose
is so so tremendous
for us in in our life.
We get out of bed. We live longer. When we have a purpose, This is one reason why when you see a man who has done 30 years at a business
and he gets
gets around to where he gets time. It's time to retire. He retires. He has cake, gets a gold gold plated watch, goes home, plays golf for about a year, 2 years,
and then somewhere along the way, he dies.
That
is because he didn't have a purpose.
He lost his purpose. He lost his identity
when he stopped working at that company.
Was the company his purpose? It could've been, but he had a sense of purpose.
That might've been what his calling was, but he whenever he left, he didn't renew
and find another purpose.
And so he passed. The same thing happens to older
couples. Say,
you've got them got them husband and wife and the wife dies at 86 and the gentleman lives another year, if that.
That's one reason why you get so many men who their wife dies, and they die this at the same time with them. He they cannot us men, if we don't have somebody that we can take care of, somebody we can nurture, somebody that we can spend our life with,
you're gonna die even faster.
That's what's so sad about
so many of the young men
these days. We're our we're gonna have a
a population
decrease,
not just because
the young couples are not having children.
We're in a negative,
you know, we're in a decline
on kids having
having
families.
They are missing out what it means. They think, oh, I can have kids when I'm 40. No.
1, that means you're 60 years old whenever you're the kid the kid gets out of,
gets out of high school.
You should be really, you know, kinda starting to really live your own life.
Having kids in your twenties is the best time. Having kids in your twenties
is when you have most energy to be a mom and dad.
And,
oh my gosh, you don't I mean, thirties is okay.
But, you know,
women, I mean, women who have kids in their forties
run the risk of of Down syndrome. Not the down having a child with Down syndrome is a bad thing
because they are the happiest
beings
on the planet. They are walking they are angels that walk among us,
but
you have you run the a an increased risk of having
children with down syndrome from,
from women who are in their fifties,
late forties, early fifties.
It is so hard for women to be pregnant
at that age, but yet
we have to have a a purpose.
And these men don't aren't getting married at a young age.
We should be celebrating, but yet I mean, I remember I had an aunt whenever we
me and, my wife got pregnant with the, well, my wife got pregnant. I was just there to apply the secret sauce.
But
she
when we found out we're she was pregnant,
I had an aunt who was very much, it's like, oh, you're one of those breeders.
Yeah. Yeah. That's kind of the purpose. You went off and had 2 kids. I you know,
we're not overpopulated.
I can tell you are that. I mean, we can go on about about all the this you know, the people who scream about misinformation are the ones who seem to be dishing out more misinformation. But the misinformation about population is is almost
hysterical when you find out if we were to even just crunch ourselves down into, like, Bangladesh
or New Delhi I mean, not Bangladesh. Bangladesh is a country. But if you were to take it and cram it down into, like, New Delhi
density
or even Hong Kong density.
I think you could take every human in the in the world and fit them into Texas, Oklahoma,
and Arkansas, something like that, or maybe it's New Mexico, Texas, and Oklahoma. Anyhow,
very small
compared to what the rest of the world is.
We are nowhere near as as
full as we wanna think we are.
But it's when it comes to speaking of full,
that's the 4th
pillar that you need to have, the man's community. You need to have a community around you, a group of men, other men, and that's the very specific part.
You need to have
a group of men that you spend very intentional
time with.
Those men
help you keep your masculine energy going.
If you don't have that masculine energy,
you're you're not going to have
the
the energy
to help support your wife and your kids.
You need to have that energy,
that masculine energy, that masculine
energy. It's only the best word to describe it.
To have that mindset, to be able to have the can do attitude,
you have to be able to have
masculine energy.
And you only get that when you're around
other men. So what else do you need to do
when it comes to building that connection?
Say you've been working on your community. You're still you're wanting to you've got a plan. You're executing it.
Bingo. Beautiful. Awesome. Kick butt.
So what do we wanna do? Well, the biggest part when it comes to communication,
comes to talking, to build that connection, when you started every Saturday, 8 o'clock, I'm sitting down. I'm having a conversation with the wife whether she wants it or not.
And
what do you how do you do that? How do you have a conversation with your wife? And that sounds weird because I struggled with the same question.
It's like, well, what do I what do we talk about? Your life.
Your dreams, your hopes,
your fears.
And when your wife is talking,
get honestly
curious. Ask honest questions.
Show them what it is that you're
that you are truly
invested
in their life.
Show your wife that you truly
do care.
Yeah. You're gonna have to listen to the roll out of that really crappy,
just
mediocre detail boring detailed stuff. But it helps you have a better life with your wife.
You build a better connection. She can trust you. She knows that you're you're there to hear her, and she feels heard. When she feels heard,
all of a sudden,
her clothes start getting start wearing a little looser. When she talks about particular problems,
listen, but don't fix.
If she wants to be wants a problem, she'll or wants a problem fixed, she will ask you to help fix it. I want a solution to this problem. She will ask you and tell you what it is she wants done, and she will tell you, hey. I need this done. If you want if it's bothering you and you wanna try to help her fix it, first ask is like, do you want a solution to this?
And she says, no. Okay. Cool. Well, we're gonna continue on with ourselves then and just tell keep keep telling and keep going.
And then after everything is said and done,
the big point is
take action.
Do the scary things. Ask the scary questions. And that big scary question, we're gonna come up on with here in about 2 weeks. Next week, actually gonna talk about some of the habits that we do that actually break connections. So that'll become in episode 228.
But
the week after that, we're gonna talk about the really scary question that the question that keeps us from actually having
more sex
because we don't ever ask this question. And that is you
ask. Hey. You wanna wanna go fool around in bed?
And be okay with the no
and not take that personally?
Can you have a discussion
and it not be taken personally?
Can you have ask questions
and have her responses be
not taken personally? It's not a, it's not a point,
a a diss at you. It's not her
talking smack about you. It is her talking about her views of what the circumstance are
currently and currently is.
But when you take the time, you work on the man's pillar, work on the man's body, get better communication skills by working on the on the man's mind. You work on all of these, you're going to have
results.
Your thoughts create your results. Remember that. You're always going to have
stronger results when you actually start paying attention to what what the thought is behind the
behind the emotion.
Why are you feeling
upset about what it is she said? Well, because, she's she says she doesn't love me anymore. No. No. She said,
she thinks she needs to lose
she's thinks you need to lose a little weight.
That's just her observation. Do you? Honestly, probably so. But at the same time,
it's just a just a thought.
So, guys,
I wanna say thank you very much for listening, taking care of of listening, and and because our relationships
with our wives are so incredibly important.
They are the reason that we got married. We wanted to be around our wife.
If you want
to find a way of building that connection, building that strong,
powerful connection. I've got
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causing you from being able to take the steps that are needed
so that
that hold these thoughts and these,
these actions and the emotions that keep you back
can be rectified, can be changed. We can get
a better
solution.
All we have to do is just take the next step.
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So, guys, thank you again for listening. If anything that I said here resonated with you, please share this out. Share it on the Facebook.
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rest of the week, and we will see y'all
next week. Till then.
Bye.